The last few days have been really rough for me. I just recently put in my notice at a job that I had been working for for almost three years. I had a lot of friends there, I met my boyfriend there, I felt like we were one big family. When I put my notice in after not working for a few weeks, I thought that someone… Anyone might reach out to me. Well, I guess I was wrong. I haven’t heard from anyone at work and that has just been so devastating to me. When you spend so much of your time with these people, like I did, you expect to have a friendship with these people when you come out on the other side. Call it being naive, but I kind of didn’t expect to be left in the dust! This week has just been so hard after realizing that it is real… I’m done with this huge part of my life. I have let go and moved on from this place that I had spent a considerable amount of time in! I had a critical role at this place, I did so much while I was there, and while I’m excited to see what the future brings me I can’t help but be sad that this particular part of my journey is coming to a close.
So, although I might not be dealing with it as well as I think I should be, here are four ways to move on:
- Take a mental health day, binge watch Making a Murderer on Netflix and eat copious amounts of popcorn. Or pick up some Panda Express and then lay down to take a nap. It’s okay! It’s okay to give up working out and tracking your food for a single day. One day, one cheat meal, isn’t going to ruin all of your progress.
- Talk to someone. Explain how you feel. Get it all out there and leave it out there. Having someone to listen to your feelings, really really listen and tell you how to move on from them is invaluable.
- Dont forget who you are. Don’t forget that you are valuable. You are important. It’s hard to feel like you have been forgotten after being in some people’s lives for so long. It is hard to feel like you have given your all and somehow, it still wasn’t good enough. Remember that you are valuable and you still have you. You can move on from this and move up and meet new people who will see your value and cherish it.
- Know that you aren’t crazy for being upset. You spent a lot of time trying to please this person or these people. Know that it is okay to be upset, but don’t let it affect your life. Don’t give up on your goals. Don’t lose sight of yourself.
I know this seems pretty centric about me quitting my job, but, I truly believe that it can be applied just about anywhere. A breakup, losing a friend, losing your job, etc. I know it isn’t much, but I truly hope that it can help someone move on from their devastating situation.
What are your thoughts? Have any of you dealt with a similar situation? How did you get past it? Let me know in the comments below!